My boyfriend says he needs me. Should I trust him .....?
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I'd get out there, colourfast, if I were you. It sounds like he is detergent-mined to bleach the colour out of your life. If you don't leave now, it will continue into a vicious spin-cycle of despair. You need to empowder yourself, and break free!
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I think you need to stick with what works for you.
I think you need to stick with what works for you.
definately not...but you can trust me....he he
Trust him to do the laundry??? If you can't trust him to do that what else can you trust him with?
They do this on purpose my dear. My husband of 9 years still can't figure out how to do the laundry. I know he can, he just plays dumb very well.
Make sure none of the red clothes go in with the whites...nothing worse than pink tennis clothes..
Who is paying for the clothes?
There are a lot of people who consider problems like this as things beyond your control. You can't make your boyfriend into yourself. So, either you trust him not to ruin the clothes or you don't.
I believe that you can always simplify your situation. If there is a chance that he will fail you then you should take than into acount. There is not a right or wrong here, only preference. What do you prefer, living dangerously or seeing the world as your responsibility? In simplest terms, you are your brother's keeper.
Personally, I would do the laundry.
I think there are men out there who are very adept at washing laundry and knowing what goes with what.
Don't bother retraining. Get a new one. It's quicker and less painful or irritating....lol
If he seperates the whites from the colors, you might leave as that is a sign he might be racist.
I just hope he at least washes his own socks, and doesn't mix 'em in with your uhm, dainty delicate type stuff...you never know how that'll turn out.
Do not leave him alone with the laundry. Next thing you know your crisp white pants will be tie dyed and all your panty hose will be wrapped around the agitator in the washer.
Better yet, let him do his own laundry and see how it turns out before you let him do yours.
Oh, he probably needs you. Take him by the hand and with a 1st grade tone give him a step by step Laundry 101- Fabrics, Cycles, and Settings. And if he happens to accidentally wash a corn dog, it doesn't mean it's clean- don't let him eat it.
hire someone
In this case I think you should help him out. After all, he will be unhappy if all his tidy whities come out stinky pinky from washing a red shirt with them.
Your questions do create a double bind. If you can't trust him to learn what to wash with what do you really want to trust him with your virtue ? If you give a mouse a cookie and you a teacher should be familar with the reference. If you do a mans laundry, he'll want you to iron his shirts. If you iron a mans shirts he'll want you to make him a sandwich, if you make him a sandwich he'll want a glass of milk with it. If you give him a glass of milk he'll want to take a nap in your bed, if you let him take a nap in your bed he'll want you to nap with him. If you nap with him...you get my drift. By all means let me get my laundry I can't possible comprehend how to sort pinks from whites and other complicated mysteries of laundry.
Have you been drinking?
Laundry is tough for a guy...we figure we can throw everything in together and it's cool...but apparently the clothes bleed or fade or something? And who wants to read the tags?
I'm not ALLOWED to do laundry!
You should do it yourself...
If he needs you, he needs you to do his laundry. I'm looking for a girlfriend because I don't like the way my maid does my laundry. I've got a really cool house, good job, tell funny stories and love to dance. Plus, I can fix things, know how to listen to you all night, and I'm more than capable in between the sheets. Best of all, I have a really cool European washer and dryer. How about it?
That's why he needs you. Laundry is a difficult, underestimated job that need a patient teacher.
There's a handy mnemonic song by The Offspring that your boyfriend may find helpful:
Hey, you washing underwear with slacks,
Take 'em out-
You gotta keep 'em separated.
Hey, you washing reds along with whites?
They'll come out pink-
You gotta keep 'em separated
Hey, hey, don't pay no mind
Just keep your lights apart from darks and your laundry will be fine,
Hey, come wash today
just give him a few more tries because my boyfriend does laundry. My room mate is a guy too and he does his own laundry. and so does my brother and dad. there are a few males that do laundry so there is still hope for your boyfriend.
Just to TIDE things over for him..seperate ALL colors and whites.
Then bring them DOWNY to the laundry room.
He needs you....