is this ok or am i crazy?
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You shouldn't be ashamed to want nice things, including a carpet. If you and the rest of your immediate family take your shoes off and everything is fine, then I wouldn't worry about it. To ease your mind, you should get or make a friednly reminder and place it by the door, that says, "please take shoes off upon entering, thank you". Then designate a place for people's shoes, I'm sure they will understand.
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I think all mom's have that issue. ; ) I know that we're not allowed to wear shoes in the house or eat in a room that has carpeting.
I think all mom's have that issue. ; ) I know that we're not allowed to wear shoes in the house or eat in a room that has carpeting.
Make them take their darn shoes off! White carpet is impossible to keep clean otherwise.
It's your house and they should respect YOUR rules.
That's fine, you are not crazy.
It's your place...your rules...people should be acceptant of that...especially your father.
I don't allow people into my house with their shoes on either.
its your house so of course it is okay. That is something that bothers me too but I have too much traffic in and out of my house to make the kids take their shoes off allthe time but I am a stickler for "WIPE YOUR FEET!"
Relax and keep doing what you have been doing.your father and step mom are coming to your house and should respect your wishes.
YOUR CRAZY
It is your house .YOU make the rules..That's what your parent told you wasn't it.Take good care of your stuff and it will last...keep up the good values..stick to your guns
First off you're not doing anything wrong insisting they remove their shoes. If they don't like the policy they can learn to keep their mouths shut or not visit the grandkids.
On the other hand having white carpet with young boys is about as smart as moving to Love Canal, NY.
AIts your house & they should listen 2 your rules
lol this too funny my cousin does that to us at first i thought this was not cool at all but he had slippers and socks for the kids he explain it to us and we were cool i think it depends on who u tell? but i think not inviting ppl is a bit obessive thats all i can say.
You're not crazy. Do everybody a favor and buy a cheap runner that you can put down when you have company who don't want to remove their shoes. They can walk on the runner instead of the carpet. When they leave the runner goes away. Problem solved.
I personally don't go into anyones home where shoes aren't allowed. If your home is more important than the company you keep, knock your shoes off, or is that socks? Your father should already know this before he comes to your house.
of course it is okay! it is YOUR house, and your parents must learn to respect your rules. i am sure growing up they had some rules you thought were absurd that you had to follow. taking your shoes off when entering someone's house is not wierd, it is courteous. i know many families that have that rule. also, it is customary in many cultures for shoes to be removed before stepping foot in a household.
If you have to ask if your crazy then obviously something is wrong, carpets can be cleaned, but you can't easily get friends, how would you like to be treated when you visit your friends or relatives houses?
it's fine. my brother and his wife just remind people when they come in to take of their shoes (and they don't have carpet, which is a little weird). My parents have a sign and keep shoes by the door so people know to take them off. As far as not having your son's birthday at the house because of the possibly dirtiness: beware that you aren't making the cleanliness more important than memories with your children.
wow!! well, it is not bad to ask your family to take out their shoes, I mean, they have to respect your decisions, in the end, it is your house. The problem comes when you are inviting people like the friends of your sons or people like that. I think you are not crazy, and they should make what you ask them to do without complaining, but there are some persons that can't understand that they have to respect you and your house, and unless you want to fight against almost all the people you invite to your house, or with your sons because they can't invite people, well, then think of taking out that carpet, or placing something that protects it.
Good luck!
P.S. try talking about it to the eldest of your sons (I think the others are stil too young), to your husband, and to your dad, so that you get their points of view. Just don't make the thing of the white carpet a familiar fight please
well.. I think since it is your family they should respect your wishes. With your guests the rules are a little different. I have been to many houses that the host would prefer me not to wear shoes so they have communal slippers or they use rugs over the carpet if their guests end up wearing their shoes. I looked it up and most edicate rules say to make the guests comfortable and let them do what ever they want but I totally agree with YOU about making people just take off thier shoes and I don't even have nice carpet. Plus in dealing with your family how many times did you hear the statement "as long as you are under my roof you will live by my rules?"
its fine. just don't let them wear their shoes in the house OR get a mat they can wipe their feet on when they walk in.
in Canada it is just expected that when you go into someone's house, you take your shoes off. I think the States is the only place I've heard of that you wear your shoes in the house. It's your house and if he can't take his shoes off, then maybe he should pay for the carpet cleaning. You could buy an inexpensive pair of slippers for him to wear when he's visiting, or just meet him in the driveway everytime he shows up and keep him out there.
like you said, in their house you can't even sit on the floors - GROSS. Just don't let it consume your life. It is only carpet but take care of it to the best of your ability.
I DON'T THINK IT IS WRONG BECAUSE HE MIGHT FEEL THE SAME WAY IF HE HAD WHITE CARPET IN HIS HOUSE...
I'm sorry, houses are for living in not for keeping spotless. I wonder if anyone is allowed to use the john?
u are not crazy!! Its ur house and if the rest of the family like ur kids takes theres off its a respect thing when ppl come to ur house that is a rule u have and they need to go by it. if u go to someones else house u go by there rules. there is nothing wrong with wanting to keep ur house clean. Family of all ppl should respect ur wishes but most of the time there the ones that dont. and if they dont want to take them off give them choices. 1. either take them off and stay. 2. dont take them off make them wear plastic bags over there shoes. and if they dont like that then they can leave. dont bend ur rules for the sake of others. remember its your house u pay for it. NOT them!
Ok, well what I do is have a nice supply of house shoes in different sizes by the door, and some sandals (flip-flops) if weather permits..that way people can still wear shoes,,just not dirty ones. Works for me. Also put up a sign on your front door and tell people before they come over. I say "WE just got new carpet or got it cleaned so please take off your shoes". Most will understand.
Dont you worry about it.. it's YOUR house and you can do whatever you want.. my inlaws never take off their shoes, and my eyes cross from being so mad at them. I even put a sign on my door to take off their shoes, and nothing. Stand your ground! It's YOUR house!