Im 18 and my Mom won't let me do ANYTHING I believe I should obey her wishes as the Bible says. But its hard!
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It's time to leave the nest!Your 18 now and if you really want a job,go for it!Yes you should obey her wishes,as the bible says.,obey thy mother and father,and you shall lenthen your days!Are you sure the thing is,your not ready to face life on your own,and your just using your little brother as an excuse?You only have 2 options:live with your mom and abide by her rules or grow up,and learn to face life on your own!Then you will really see how tough things are!!
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you are at a fork in the road
if you want to be treated as an adult, you have to pay your own way. If your parents are paying any part of your way then you have to honor their requests.
If you were throwing a party would you just want to be handed a bill at the end with out any say in it?
OR,.. wouldn't you like to decide where it'll be held, what time and day, who's invited, the decor, the food , the guest list?
Remember, this is your money now.
Keep in mind...
wouldn't you say your MORE than twice as smart as you were at age 9?
Well your parents are a lot more experienced in life than you so.. find a new way to listen to them
you are at a fork in the road
if you want to be treated as an adult, you have to pay your own way. If your parents are paying any part of your way then you have to honor their requests.
If you were throwing a party would you just want to be handed a bill at the end with out any say in it?
OR,.. wouldn't you like to decide where it'll be held, what time and day, who's invited, the decor, the food , the guest list?
Remember, this is your money now.
Keep in mind...
wouldn't you say your MORE than twice as smart as you were at age 9?
Well your parents are a lot more experienced in life than you so.. find a new way to listen to them
It is hard to respect your mothers wishes. However bible or no bible, while you live under her house you should obey her rules. However mom should be realizing that you are eighteen now, you're a legal adult. There's no reason why she shouldn't be letting you have more freedom. By anything, what do you mean exactly? Are you a good kid where mom shouldn't worry about you? Do you get good grades? Do you drink or do drugs? Have you ever lied to your mother before? If you haven't done anything to make your mother super over protective, it's probably time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with her. Explain how and why you're a responisble kid and why you need to start venturing out on your own. You need to tell your mother that you are an adult, and while you don't want to disprespect her or step on her toes, you do feel that you should be allowed to have a little more freedom. See if you can't compromise and come to a middle ground. You're allowed to stay out until one am, but you've agreed to tell your mother where your going, who you're with, you always have a cell phone on you, and you are home when you say you will be home. You're allowed to go on dates with boys, but only after mom meets them first. Talking and compromising is the best situation I see for you.
You seem to really follow the bible, so I assume you attend church as well? Try talking to someone there and see if they can't talk to your mother for you or with you. Also, getting involved in church activities is a good way to get out of the house and away from your mother while also showing her how responsible you are.
Moving out is a big decision and shouldn't be done in a rush (like I did), however if your mom refuses to bend and you can't stand being at home, then it's time to start looking. Start talking to friends or church members and see if anyone wants to be a roomate, or maybe family will let you spend a summer with them somewhere. Just food for thought, and good luck.
Your parents love you and want to protect you from the evils in this world today.Let their wisdom guide you.
hmmmm...Following the bible in perfection is probably harder than to wonder off every here and then. Maybe it is because YOU ARE GROWING UP! I mean mommy needs to understand you are no longer the lil babygirl they took care of. ..and about the bible, i personally have been disecting the history of the bible and it has changed alot from the earliest books i can tell you that much. Ive yet to find someone to have followed the bible and not broken a law...
Why on earth would you not want to move out?! If your mom isn't giving you any freedom, why not just take life by the horns and get the heck out?
You are an adult at 18 and it is normal to feel this way. You will have to do as she says while you live at home, not because of the Bible but because you live in her house. Start making your plans to move out if it gets too bad.
YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT AND MOVE ON. YOU CANT STAY SHELTERED FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND YOU NEED TO LEARN RESPONSIBILITY EVENTUALLY. IF YOU NEED BIBLICAL ADVISE, GO TO THE LEADER OF YOUR CHURCH. YOUR MOTHER WILL COME AROUND TO THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE TO GROW UP AND SHE NEEDS TO LET GO. HOLDING ON TO YOU CAN DO MORE HARM THAN GOOD.
once your 18 you can make your own choices! Your mom is treating you like a baby! Tell her to look in the law book and see if I'm right!
Why don't you see if there is some work you can do around the church?? That would get you out of the house, and you would be learning something about the outside world.. Maybe there is some fileing or typing, or cleaning, or something like that that needs to be done.. Talk to your Minister, or Paster, or who ever, and see if he/she can help you out with some little jobs that need to be done around the church. I would not think that your mother would object to that, she could take you there, and pick you up.. she could even stay with you for the first few times.. just to make sure that is what you were doing.. You need to pick up some social skills, and learn to do something. You are never going to be able to go out into the job force if you don't know how to do anything.. and you certainly can not live with your parents for the rest of your life.. I am not saying to pack your bags and move .. you are not ready to move.. you have no idea what you are in for if you were to leave right now.. it is a cold hard world out there. and you are certainly not ready for it right now.. you need to be able to get a job, and earn some money,and see what it is to have to buy your own clothes and buy a car, and pay for repairs, and insurance, and buy some groceries, and help out with some of the utilities.. Tell your mother you would like to get a part time job, and learn to make a budget, and save money for college, and to learn to be an adult, so you will be able to take care of yourself when the time comes for you to move out.. She may respect the fact that you have put some thought into this, and that you are growing up. She may not like the idea at first, you will have to keep trying. but I bet she will come around.. We mothers hate to let go !!Good luck to you !! from a Mother that has been there...
Your little brother is going to get this anyway-Sounds as if your Mom has the problem-She is a control freak-which is a real disease. Show her in the BIble examples of young people doing extraordinary thhings-Jesus preaching and teaching at 12-David slaying Goliath-Young people can acheive amazing things when they are given the space to do so-If she has raised you right your values are already instilled and she needs to trust her own up bringing of you. Talk to someone like your pastor if you believe she is a control freak.
See/call your Church pastor/priest, tell him your problem.
Maybe he can talk to your Mom about her problem.
At 18 your an adult. Are you still in high school? If not--get a job & move out. Get your own place. You should honor your mother, but she should be ashamed keeping you locked up. How are you ever going to meet anyone & fall in love, not to mention enjoy life. Sounds like your mother doesn't trust you & has no faith in you to make your own decisions. Tell her how you feel.
i am a christian mother also, and it is our job to raise our children to be independent, well adjusted, law abiding citizens and God fearing adults. you need to talk to your mother, nicely, and tell her that if she hasn't taught you all those good things and you haven't learned them by now, i don't think you ever will. my last son is 14. he is very responsible and mature, and a loving christian. i already believe that i have done a good job.(not to say i am done until he graduates, though) but i also have 4 more children from 34-19 that i KNOW i did a good job on. let her know that you have learned the good values that she raised you in(but if you haven't shown that you are trust worthy-don't expect her to understand) good luck and God bless