A question for men who work with their hands and women that date them?
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Try buying some mechanic's hand cleaner with pumice, and a brush for cleaning hands. Leave it accessible, but do not hound him about it. Eventually he will discover it and start using it.
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LOL -- I remember seeing mechanics use Corn Huskers lotion for calluses and rubbing their fingernails across bars of soap before/after working. There are products for people who use their hands (theirs one in a orange container). Maybe treat your man to weekly or biweekly manicures.
LOL -- I remember seeing mechanics use Corn Huskers lotion for calluses and rubbing their fingernails across bars of soap before/after working. There are products for people who use their hands (theirs one in a orange container). Maybe treat your man to weekly or biweekly manicures.
believe it or not his hands ARE stained. my grandfather and my father in law both work(ed) on cars and their hands are both nasty. my grandfather has been retired for YEARS and his hands are still dirty. my brother is young and his hands already look like that.
My first husband used to work on motors a lot. His hands would get very dirty; a lot of grease would get under his nails.
He had a brush that he used to scrub the grease off, and special hand cleaner for mechanics.
He kept them pretty clean, and it was good enough for me. No harm ever came to me from his hands.
Get your boyfriend a nail brush, and some mechanics' hand cleaner.
You'll be fine.
If you make him feel that you are criticizing him for the work that he does, or that you must "teach" him to keep his hands clean, I do not see much future for your relationship. Maybe you should date an accountant.
My fiance's hands are stained as you put it. He works on cars on the side. He gets black grease on his hands it it really does stain them. I can't tell you how to get them clean because we've tried everything with his.
I work with my hands too. I think cleaning them is going to be accomplished by you telling him that he can't put them where they may cause infections...until he cleans them up. Glue, stain, paint, oil...all clean up. He just has to find the stuff to clean them up. I haven't ever been asked to clean my hands, because I keep them clean, but I have been asked to be careful rubbing her nips because they are so rough that they hurt a little. Good Luck
Plenty of hand cleansers out there for the blue collar man. Buy one and sit down when the two of you are watching TV and give him a manicure. Either you will be able to show him how nice his hands could look or you will find out that he is indeed cleaning his hands the best he can.
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I did building work all my life, over thirty five years of it. Masonary was a big part of my work. Even though my hands were badly chapped in the winter time, they were always spotlessly clean. Compliments about my hands were galore.
Hygiene is habit forming. Lack of it is also.
It's not unreasonable. Still, it's likely that his hands are stained. My dad's a mechanic, and his hands get *black* with grease and grime. A combination of goop hand cleaner, a good scrubby brush, and some powdered laundry detergent (he always liked Tide; mom would buy him his own box) seems to work best.
If this is something that bothers you, then tell him over and over until you are satisfied. Everynight I scrape out dirt from underneath my fingernails... yes, it comes out. You both are dating, that means that it is give and take and personal feelings must be recognized.
Long story short, if it bugs you, he should be willing to provide a little extra clean up for you and the pleasures that you give him.
It's your body, and if he wants it, he will clean under his nails.
We in the trade lovingly call it "PERMADIRT" for no matter how hard or how often we scrub, our hands just don't come clean anymore. Don't hound him about it, that will do nothing but give him resentments towards you, and what kind of relationship would that be? Don't buy him anything with pumice in it, all that does is tear up the skin on his hands and it dries out his hands so much they will constantly feel like they are on fire. Most men do try their hardest to look respectful, for their SO's but some things are just out of their control. I hate the way my hands look dirty all the time, but it is a consequence of my job.