I want two things for our new house, but I'm not permitted?
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How extremely cold of her to do this to you! Me and my boyfriend just bought a house last year and we have been remodeling a little here and a little their, using our budget of course. neither one of us tell each other no on this idea or th at. I would get your wife to tell you her reasons behind the sudden no. explain to her that you need to understand the situations. Do not tell her though she is being selfish and self-centered. that will make it worse. did you put most of the money down or her? cause if you did, you have even more reason to get your say in. not fair man..not fair. talk to her and hopefully she will come around. to me big screen tv. and deck sound awesome! good luck.
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I would tell her some of the great reasons why the deck and t.v. would be a great asset. The deck would be great for partys and romantic dinners. And the t.v. would be awesome when she wants to watch movies with her girlfriends or stare at her favorite soap opra star hahah!
I would tell her some of the great reasons why the deck and t.v. would be a great asset. The deck would be great for partys and romantic dinners. And the t.v. would be awesome when she wants to watch movies with her girlfriends or stare at her favorite soap opra star hahah!
hey buddy you gotta live there too! and who's paying for the house and all the stuff?.....dont mean to sound cruel but grow a set already!
All of us men want a bigger deck. Watch the Jeff Foxworthy special on big decks and you will have your reasons. Size does matter.
Those two items seem like reasonable demands to me. Sounds like your wife is being selfish unless one or more of her excuses are legit. Definitely need to talk to her seriously about this.
Depending on the situation I could see reasons for her not wanting a big screen tv but why not a bigger deck. IF the deck will not require taking up flower beds or cutting down trees i don't see any reason not to do it. That wasteh first improvemnt I made to my house 2 years ago and I am so glad I did it. Draw up your plan and show it to her and see if she has any ideas to include. If there is something she particularly likes incorporate a place for it in the plan.
one way is make her understand how much that TV and deck means to u .. and it was ur lifetime dream to have those things in ur house ... it will work... u can also add up that it is well within ur budget to get these both things... i am sure she will understand. do not solve the matter with quaral or fight ... add that emotional touch ...
Ask her to give rational reasons as to why you cannot have a bigger deck area and a big screen tv. If she can't then explain to her how important this is to you and if that doesn't work then you two should compromise.. perhaps one room of the house (i.e. basement area or attic?) can be your room for the big-screen tv! Let her know that you were very accomodating with her redecoration ideas. Just remember don't argue! Try and remain even when putting your points across.
Why need permission? Are we not equal in having rights to the many things that we share or don't.
Who's paying the mortgage? This should be the determining factor. Hey I'd love a hubby like that.lol
you allow it. Are you working? Or are you a "housebitch"?
you need to be the man. you have discussed this matter with her,so go build the deck bigger,then get the big screen TV. she has all that she wanted so its only fair.good luck
put your foot down and be a MAN! grow a PAIR.after fix the deck prepare a romantic candle lite diner...and cuddle and watch her favorite movie on the big screen!! to show how nice it is
build the DECK buy the TV. let her see u want it .
well from my experience as a woman we have three things that we dream of when we are children.......our wedding, our first home & how many children we want and their names. in her mind she is not being selfish she is only followinh her dream. i think the best way to approach the situation is to let her know u understand her vision however u want just a tiny input. explain to her how the bigger deck would bennifit her and as for the tv brib her.........just kiddin. There is no real way to get her to go for the tv so u have to do a lot of beggin for that one but the deck shoukd not be that hard. let her know what she means to u and how u want the house to be a joint decision. my husband is the same way as u r he gives me the freedom to do as i please as far as our home but he loves his video games and anything electronic so that was the only thing he wanted ........to be able to get a real entertainment center (thats what he called it not me). good luck and congrats on ur new home.
ps. she loves u so it should not be hard for her to realize that she should at least consider ur request
just do it, who is she a gestapo! she got what she wanted.
Your to liberal with your woman.. What are you MAN or MOUSE? I mean its so obvious she is using the TV and Deck as a tool to control you... I'd just go out and buy these items. Seriously, ask yourself why is this an issue for her? (sounds like you got the money to afford it ) Because, its all about her controlling you! YOU NEED to Man up bro!
My advice is to run. Run like h***. If she's that much of a control freak, you're in for a miserable life ahead!
On the TV, it can *become* part of the decor, if she is creative enough. Saw several great designer shows, one where they did a theater room and hid the TV behind velvet drapes that swept aside to watch (okay, probably not your style, but *any* sacrifice to get it in the house, right!!), another where it was recessed into the wall and framed like painting -- then a DVD player can be added and your photos can be put up on screen as constantly changing slide-show artwork!! Or even copies of Old Masters or other artwork she might like. Or hang a flat-screen. Pricey, but easier to make look good with this concept.
Below is a link to HGTV article with some ideas on how to do it -- maybe she can check the site for other ideas as well. Good luck.
get both it's you're home also and she's being selfish
By leaving everything(95%as you say) to her you have nurtured in her a state of mind where she feels any deviation in her plans an uncalled for intervention. As you yourself say that you hardly watch TV and she almost monopolised it why are you not leaving this matter of screen size to her liking. By her remakr that the tv is not meant tobe the centre of attration for the visitors I feel that she is quite mature in household matters. Her objection to a bigger deck may also be motivated by a reluctance to convert her home and hearth to a dramatic hall. You appear to be goaded by extraneous consideration rather than good housekeeping. Or is some chauvinist male rearing his horned within you? Disarmingly admit to yourself that your tastes are rather uncouth and leave these matters to her judgement. By the way don't you have any children who have some say in the matter or both of you consider themselves to be 'just kids'. Do not commit that mistake, either of you, always invite them for discussion when you are going to go in for something. Finally you may carry the day but the children will feel honoured they have been consulted.
You do not know the situation. So that was not appropriate to say to someone you do not know. You supposed to have lifted my spirits not humiliate your self. Call for a professional to help u decorate your place.