i have made my friend angry. what should i do to make her my friend again. ( Please cheak the details )?
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The first thing to consider is: Your friend betrayed your trust. So first, you must consider whether you want friends like this in your life. "With friends like this, who needs enemies?"
If you take the person back as being your friend, would you ever be able to trust them again?
What does this person have that makes you want to compromise your own integrity and principles to have them as a friend again?
Assuming you've considered this carefully and are 100% certain that you want this person to be your friend again (you have your reasons that I can't see, and you don't need to explain them on this site - it's your friendship and risk) then:
- First understand that you cannot make anyone do anything, therefore you cannot make anyone be your friend.
- Then - approach her. Ask her for some of her time so you can have a chat with her. She will probably be very defensive. Explain that you want to explain yourself and why you wrote such an insulting letter. Explain, "I'm sorry if I hurt you, but it's because I was very hurt at what you did. You're my friend, and friends are supposed to be trusted. I trusted you with a very sensitive piece of information, and I was taken by surprise that you did something I never thought you would do, and that's why I reacted the way I did - the one person I knew I could trust proved me wrong. I'm not sure why you did it, but it's why I reacted so harshly. However, I really value our friendship, you did me wrong, I told you off, and now I'd like it to be behind us. I'd like us to be friends again."
So, you've been:
- reasonable
- rational
- explained yourself
- explained how you feel and why you reacted
- apologised for your reaction (even though it's a perfectly reasonable reaction! Ask your friend how she would have reacted, and I think she'll be able to see it through your eyes)
- explained that you value the friendship you both once had and want to continue with that.
Your friend should be impressed with your leadership and maturity to approach her like this.
If it all goes sour and doesn't go to plan, then maybe she needs more time. Give that to her. Whatever you do, don't grovel because that will make you out to be the weaker person - again I ask you, do you really need her as a friend? So, make the offer, and let her accept or not. If she doesn't, then move on. There are plenty of other people out there who would be willing to be your friend!
Remember, a stranger is a friend you haven't met yet. All your friends were strangers once.
Other answers:
call her adn talk to her - explain why you're angry adn that you still want to be friends.
call her adn talk to her - explain why you're angry adn that you still want to be friends.
Write her again explaining what she did wrong and how you feel betrayed, just to make sure she understands. Once she does, if she doesn't apologize, then she isn't worth having as a friend.
Do you really want to be friends with someone you can't trust? It doesn't sound as if she is worth it.
talk straightforwardly to her
first off if she did that then you need to ask yourself if she is a friend you need. I'm sure there is many other people you can be friends with. real Friends don't run their mouths! don't lower your self to think that she is the only kind of friend you can get! oh and be carefull of who you tell secrets to some things are better left unsaid. write it down in a diary if you need to get it off your chest or tell it to a teady bear.
find her talk to her about your friendship tell her you forgive her for telling your secrets and you are sorry for writing that letter
Tell her that you're sorry for insulting her in the letter, but that you're really hurt that she told people your secret. Let her know that you'd like her to apologize for it, and if she doesn't, give up. Do you really want to stay friends with someone who will blab your secrets?
you should tell them why u or they are mad.
talk to her and tell her to stop telling people your secrects , thats why they are secrects (to not tell no one unless you want to tell someone). Or if thats not possible forget about her she is a thing in the past . find some new friends you can never have enough friends.
Ask her why did she tell your secret, that's a beginning...
I know what you mean. My friend betrayed me. We didn't talk for years. We missed out on each others kids and important things we shared so closely. One day I just asked her why she told my secret to eveyone when I trusted her? She didn't know why and still didn't see the big deal. Although we have worked things out, I just learned the hard way who you can trust with certain things and who you can't. It is up to you to decide if the friendship is worth salvaging. Good luck.
Just tell her, you really betrayed me and if you want to continue being my frined then you have to learn what friendship is all about. It may be harsh but she needs to know that when a friend tells her something in confidence then she should respect you and keep it to the end!
just wait and see! Don´t beat about the bush.She is the Apple of your eye.You are between the devil and the deep Sea.
If you really want to stay friends with her, then you need to talk to her and explain why you were upset and wrote the insulting letter to her and tell her why she was wrong to share a secret. Explain that because you felt you could trust her you told her something in confidence and that by sharing what you had told her with others you felt as though she had betrayed your trust in her as your friend. If you do patch up the friendship, you should know that it would not be a good idea to share any more secrets with this person and it would be a good idea to take your time rebuilding the friendship until she can prove that she is actually worthy of being a friend. If having a friend that won't talk out of turn is important to you, then be aware, some people just CAN NOT keep a secret. I don't know why that is, but I have a couple of friends that I don't tell anything that I don't want everyone to know, cause I know they will blab, it is just part of who they are. But we still manage to be friends, because I know how they are and work around the problem. Good Luck!
Talk to your friend, let her know your reasons for the letter and telling her not to talk to you anymore. If she's a true friend she'll understand that what you tell her in confidence is just that: CONFINDENT! I don't know the nature of the secret but maybe you could tell her that the secret is far less important than the friendship you share and maybe she'll see that it was a mistake to let everyone in on your secret, true friends work through the problems and fake friends cause them.good luck!!