My brother feels that our parents treat me different than they do him.How can I convince him they don't?
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Well, try to see things from his point of view. perhaps they do in ways that you don't notice. After all, he has to have a reason for feeling that way, right?
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itz e same as my brother.. mayb u can talk it out wif ur parents or y not U gv him e attention he thinks he doesnt hv..??
itz e same as my brother.. mayb u can talk it out wif ur parents or y not U gv him e attention he thinks he doesnt hv..??
You can't convince him. But hopefully as you get older, he will see that you are treated the same but different.
You can't. Believe me, when a sibling gets that into their head you can't change their mind. You just have to make sure that you are good to him. Stand back and take a look from the outside-could he be right? It's difficult to see when you're in the situation.
That is the way he FEELS. You cannot change that. You also cannot answer for your parents behavior.
I have twin boys myself. I do notice that I do occasionally treat them differently. Not intentionally. But they are different personalities, they respond in their own way in any given situation. One is easier to raise; happier, easy going, more obedient, more independent. It isn't unnatural to treat them differently. BUT I do make every effort to balance it up when I notice what I am doing. I don't want either of them to feel the way your brother does.
I don't think that there is much YOU can do to change his mind. All you can do is be a loving brother. He will get over it as he matures. And as your parents mature also!
Well done for asking. That is loving.
You can't convince him that they treat you different, because they do. You may be twins but to your parents you are two individuals who were born on the same day. You have different personalities, interests, attitudes, likes, and dislikes. Each one of you looks at things differently. You may see a story one way and your sibling will see it completely different and yet it is the same story. So don't try to convince him that he is the same, he isn't only the birthday is the same. Your parents see the two of you as two different people. He may like something and you don't. I will bet your parents love you both, but in different ways because you are individuals.
If he is serious and not just a Smothers Bros. "routine"
then keep a detailed diary of what happens on a day to day basis. Everything!
amount of chores (for both)
amount of extra-curricular activities (where and when)
unearned gifts (for both)
Parties allowed to go to...
(Everything that happens for the both of you)
Give him something to see, and hopefully if there is preferential treatment, you will also realize it, and put a stop to it. Preferential treatment can tear apart families!
If there is not any special treatment, then you can show that to him.
What you SHOULD see is a balance of occurrences.
(you do something, he does something... you get, he gets)
Again, IF there is special treatment on either side, ASK why, and try to put a stop to it.
(The Smothers Bros. were a comedy team from the 60's and early 70's and one running gag was how the mother preferred one over the other)
Seriously, preferential treatment can cause a LOT of hard feelings, and will be counter to a healthy family.
Good luck from another twin!
you can't he won't listen he is jellos of what you get and he doesn't get that's all.