Please help me not hate this life!?
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needs to be in the mental Health section
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You need to stop hating yourself first and then work on one thing at a time.
You need to stop hating yourself first and then work on one thing at a time.
maybe you should go to a therapist..........
try to see if you can get in a yoga class or get a yoga dvd and start doing it. the problem (of hating everything) is inside of you. the hate is a problem inside you. you have to get inside you and fix the hate. i think yoga is the best way.
I'll be your friend
At least you have your health.
Find a hobby.. it does help
well, come see me, I'll make your life a happy one. Ya got to be over 21 though.
The only friend that you really need right now is God, look for him and you will find him and he will help you. I was in your situation a while back and now I am happily married and thanks to god. Good luck. God Bless.
Who cares if you don't have a b/f. Get an apartment, transfer to school that you do like, make new friends (join activities at school that may interest you). Living with parents does suck, but if you get your own place that will take care of that problem.
Yeah well, I go through most of that and then some. i've got a brother in the army in Iraq, A friend was murdered a year ago, I'm 21 and still living at home and Haven't found a decent job in 2 years. Oh, and like you, I have no friends where I live. But guess what?
I DON'T GIVE A SH!T!
Are you happy now?
Start volunteering and helping others. Do at least one nice thing for someone else every day. You soon will feel better and have lots of friends!
all of the above
okay first find out why you no longer have friends and try to get some. friends will help a lot in hard times. next talk to your parents if you can. if there are other reasons you cant put up with them such as abuse you should talk to a teacher or someone like that. you need to report that to someone if thats the case. if you can, talk to someone you know will understand. try talking to the school counciler.
okay this is a tough one but get over it....suck it up!!
guys come and go, and school can't be that bad, if you want to have a friend you have to be one, and you can set some rules with your parents but not too overboard and get a new job and look for and apartment......stop feeling sorry for yourself because no good comes out of it...also try looking at your situation in a possitive way instead of negative because there's people out there who are worst off that you are!
Look at what you've got going for you:
You're alive (that's a plus)
You don't have to deal with an idiot boyfriend.
You don't have to deal with a mortgage, repairs or property taxes.
School is finite, temporary, and lasts a far shorter time than your life will.
You have the availability to make time for new friends.
You will not be living with your parents forever.
Basically, your life is a blank slate right now, to be written upon as you please. You have grand opportunities right now, you're not tied down, you have full freedom.
Personally, I'd work to save up enough money and move somewhere, anywhere, new for one year just to experience it. If you fall on your face, you can move back home. But you need to find yourself.
Best wishes
You've just listed all of the negatives in your life, but I'm sure there are some positives too! You're alive and you're healthy!--start there.
You have to focus on the positives and learn to deal with, learn from, and overcome the negatives. If you start having a more optimistic outlook things will be a lot easier to deal with.
If things are really unbearable, you may be depressed. Don't take it lightly! I got counseling and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself. Whether you need medication, counseling or both it's much better to deal with it head on and now, rather than get worse...
I wish you the best of luck, health, and happiness. :-D
Man, you sound like a person I know very well, me actually. Anyway, the fact that you are even able to type this message is a blessing in it's self. Who knows, the Lord may be preparing you for greatness. Look at it this way, trouble won't last long, and when you are delivered from this funk you will have a powerful testimony to help someone else. You're not alone, you're not the only one who has this issue in the world, I'm sure that there are millions of others who have worse situations than you do. You're still here continue to live take a stand, not your life!
I wish you love peace and happiness!
Maybe you should be nice and try to fit in like if you have no friends help them or give them like messages saying you are my friend i think you get my point and also if you wanna job and boyfriend you need a friend to invite you over to a party and than put on sexy clothes and then someone will fall in love with you and also for getting a job you could look in the notices for one it works best! Well good luck for now im on your side remember by the way my name is Katarina!! So hope you choose me as best answer but u dont need to!
I would say become your own friend, since you have to spend your entire life with yourself. Learn to like yourself, trust your own judgment, value your own opinion. Don't give up--the beauty of life is it's unpredictability--your life can and will change. Be patient and wait for it--change is inevitable, for better or worse. Wishing you the very best.
stop dwelling on the negative think on the positive
Try a part time job.
You should appreciate the time out of the house so it's not so much like work. You might meet new friends there and save up some coin.
You really need a change of attitude and outlook.
Pisspoor attitude will cause you to lose friends, even boyfriend.
It also makes living at home miserable. Kind of like you're looking for reasons why everything sucks, and we can always find them.
If you stop to appreciate things you do have ( like living at home, at least you have one !) and getting educated to someday have a better life, you can smile a little more and people will warm up to you faster than if you are moping around sad and frowning.
There's always school counselors who are trained to assist you in these matters.
Good luck, and have some fun!
I'll be your friend, my dad is a phycologist, and I have been knowen to hate everything from time to time. Things are hard, I don't have a boy friend and i'm glad, i feel free to do what i want, true i do miss having one from time to time but it's nice not worrying if he is gonna get mad at me or break up with me. I wish I had my own house and I'm sure you do too but that's why you have to find a job go to grocery stores, clothing stores, walmart, Kmart go everywhere and ask for an application, if you don't fill them out and take them back you can't get a job. I think everyone hates school, I had rumors going around i was preganat so it sucked but i figured I'm better then these kids cause i don't have to make up lies to entertain myself, get involved in activitys, sports, clubs, band, art. what ever you into. You have to keep trying to have friends, i'm the kind of person were if you don't like me for who i am then you can get over it i'll do better with out you and because of that i have very few friends but the ones i do have are very close to me, being popular isn't all that i tryed being popular for a month before i hated it I prefer being far far a way from popular, preppy people, but i do i have popular preppy friend, because he accepts me. Parnets suck, they don't try to but they normally don't understand their kids as well as they would like. You have to see the brighter side of things or you'll keep hating them. I'm a christian and God has helped me thourgh alot. Try it ask him for help if you mean it he'll answer.
one way to start not hating your life is by changing your attitude. Why did you lose all your friends? I find it hard to believe that you don't have ONE SINGLE friend.
how old are you? if you are living with your parents because you are a teenager, then enjoy it while you can. Believe it or not, our parents (most of them) love us and care for us. You probably don't like them because you have to follow their rules, am I correct? My household is the same way. My kids must follow MY rules as long as they live under MY roof...I don't care how old they are. If your parents have rules, your best bet is to follow them. You mentioned you don't work, right? So that means that your parents are providing 100% of your support. (Home, food, electric, water, etc.)
If you are over the age of 18, and you don't have a job, then get one. You don't need a boyfriend. Your own house will come in due time. I am 31 years old, and I just bought my own house in May of last year.
My mother walked out on me when I was 3. My dad worked 3 different shifts every week to support myself and my 4 year old brother. (My dad was only 20). I got a job when I was 14, so I could help my dad, and I wouldn't have to watch him struggle to put food in our mouths. I stayed in school, graduated, continued to work 3rd shift (after graduation), and went to college during the day. I could have been sleeping from working all night, but my attitude was different than that, and I wanted to make something of myself. Friends were no longer important, my attitude and making something of my life became important. Oh, and by the way...there was no boyfriend in the way of all this. They are nothing more than an interruption to a young girl that needs to make a life. Boys will come later. You have plenty of time for that. Just thank your lucky stars you aren't pregnant by this boyfriend that you don't have anymore.
I am trying to tell you that things could be mouch worse. Hang in there where school is concerned. We are nothing without an education. Respect your parents and learn to make it work with them. Take care of you. Love yourself, love your parents.
Sounds like you're going through a hard time. And since I've been through those exact same things (some at different times, some at the same time) I pretty much can tell you that there is no easy answer.
But in this case, based on what you asked, it sounds as if you're just heart broken. That takes time to heal so there won't be an easy answer to that. Maybe that person wasn't really for you. Maybe that person will return to your life one day. None of that is important. You have to take things slow and move on. If it's a situation where your boyfriend moved on, let him be.
And just because you don't have a house, it's no big deal. Enjoy the lack of bills that you have to deal with now. Trust me, when you get a house, you're going to miss that extra income.
Life is up and downs. Things aren't probably bad as you may believe right now. Learn from what you are going through right now so that you can use this as your testimony in life.
You need couseling.
You have a lot of great advice here. It's up to you to take. Life is what we make of it. This is why a lot of people turn to drugs and stuff. They just give up. When you make the world all about you. It becomes a very small place to live. A prayer. God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change,Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference. Keep in mind that you are young. That if you make good decisions in your life. You will have a good life. There are always good or bad consequences to our actions. You have be given this gift of life. I pray that you learn to appreciate it. Things will get better.
Look carefully at yourself in the mirror every day and ask "Why don't I like you?" Be honest with your answers. Don't place "blame" on others. Ask the person in the mirror. Keep looking and asking and before long you'll know why. Once you decide why you don't like you, then change comes easy. And by golly others might just start liking you, too. Even boyfriends! By the way, very, very few people enjoyed their school years. But they stuck with it and prevailed. So can you. You aren't the first to dislike school. But as the saying goes "just do it, dammit!"
I have been in your shoes, it is really not as bad as you think it is. It may seem right now like everything is horrable and nothing is going right, but you know what you can change that. Instead of being down about yourself and your life take charge of it. If you don't like living with your parents then find a job so you can move out. If you don't have any friends once again get a job and make friends there. If you want a boyfriend then stop looking for one and they will come to you. Just take charge of your life and make it how you want it to be.
kitty seems to have the best advice so far.the only thing i can add to it is you got to find your self. you are you and why are you that way. the only person you can count on at this time is you. you decide what you are going to do and do it. if you fall on your face get up and do something differnt. we all learn from our mistakes and try not to do them again.
The simple answer is you can't, because we hate ourselves we feel that others should too and we drive them away, and then we hurt even more.
I lost all my friends too but it was my own fault, a few months ago I wrote 3 of them long letters and told them how I felt; guess what? They understood and we are now closer than ever. Could you do that? Not right now as I think you're too upset, but maybe work your way up to it. If any of them were true friends they'll understand, but if they don't s*d 'em - they were never worth knowing in the first place.
Like you I've had to move back in with my Mom & Dad, but that's because I couldn't cope without them. So you see you do have friends.
Take care
Vicky x
It's sad that you hate your life. God didn't make us all unique individuals, with minds and souls, for us to go hating what he gave us.
So... with that said, I'd like to share something I was told long ago.
To have a friend, you need to be a friend.
Start talking to others with a smile on your face... soon you will see that smile returned and you will be happier! Once you are happier, and not moaning & groaning, then others will respond to you in a cheerful way!
Give of yourself... volunteer... find someone who is worse off than you and do something for them! No quid pro quo... just do it because it's there to be done.
Pay it forward... you will be rewarded.
Be glad that you have parents you can live with! There are lots of kids who have lost their parents in one way or another... try appreciating them... give them a hug-- for no reason! They'll be surprised and love you extra for it!
Be glad you have a school to go to... and that you have a chance to get an education. There are lots of people who will never have that opportunity... and many others who have had to quit school to help support their family.
Practice SMILING into a mirro! You might think it is ridiculous, but I promise you'll feel better.
Good luck! I'll be thinking good thoughts for you!