Stubborn Dad rebuilding outdated house?
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I did a project analysis showing advantages and disadvantages of both option favoring the option of knock it down and building a new one. My Dad would stubbornly not listen.
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After three months of rebuilidng, ALL the problems described own shown up including statics, wet walls, wooden ceiling and others. My Dad would make a clean breast now his edict was wrong but he is keeping on rebuiling it because as he said, he already have gone too far to start it over.
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I think he should stop it and knock it down even at this point. It seem that I have a problem seeing my dad executing a stupid decree. I know it is none of my business, but just can't be seeing my closest relative to do stupid things.
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What should I do?
Answers: I'd articulate it sounds like stubbornness runs contained by the family, lol ;)
Have you stopped to consider that perchance the process of renovating the home is what your dad is actually surrounded by this for? Some of us just savour the work, and the work itself is the reward, hehehe.. much to the confusion of others. It's not about making a profit, though its nice when that happen... but it's not the 'goal'.
There's a definition of friendship - "A friend will come bail you out of jail, contained by the morning. A good friend will come down within the middle of the night, to bail you out... But a best friend will be sitting right beside you motto "Wasnt that something!" hehehe
Rather than pointing out that 'he was wrong/you be right' -- see what you can do to help him. Spend some time working together! If he's determined to, within your opinion, do something stupid - be in motion do it with him! He'll appreciate that abundantly more than your sitting on the side and pointing out how wrong he was. hehehehe
Good Luck
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