Any tips on husband & teenage son?
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I can't believe someone told you to leave your husband over a silly thing about cleaning. There are ways to talk to him, without really saying much to him at all. The same is for the teen. Teenagers (especially boys, just need to be encouraged). Your husband needs to back you up, and you need to ask him to. He needs to support your decision to get on your son about cleaning. Talking to the husband is hard too I understand. My husband HATES cleaning, and I for a long time was following him around everywhere and cleaning up after him, I still have to do it a lot. But, I am sure you are busy with other things at the same time. Just show him that you are busy and you need a little help once and a while. If he really loves you, which i am sure he does, then he will get the picture and start helping out. It just takes a lot of talking and a lot of helping him out and getting him started. Help him clean, he is more apt to do it that way. Slyly mention some things that need to be done and ask him "hey would you mind doing . i have so much else to do?" if you ask him nicely how can he refuse :-). Good luck!
Katie
Other answers:
LOL Ground both of them.
LOL Ground both of them.
Stay at your job for longer hours - they will automatically understand.
Stop cleaning and have your own fun! Let them clean up after you for a change! Life is too short to worry about a little dust!
For youre Teen give him plenty of space. You can still monitor him without him knowing.
For you Huspand take away "together time" and tell him why!! He will shape up in no time.
take a vacation alone and hope that the house is still standing when you get back, if it is they have learned there lesson
make rules and assign each household members a chore..
how frustrated are you?
Im sorry to say this is a terrible problem. In both cases, they are beyond the stage where they could be taught what is right and wrong. I'd try to reason with them separately and if nothing changes (Which most surely wont...) I' leave the husband. Your son is your responsibility to educate, not your husband.
I, like Katie, am astonished that someone suggest you leave your husband!! Isn't that just the way of the world nowdays? My goodness, you just have to tell your husband you need help. And like Dr. Phil says, you teach people how you want to be treated, husbands & children included.
It helped me to ask my husband if he cared if the house looked like a bomb went off in it? Because, I told him, if you don't start helping, that is the way it is going to look. He has improved some, Rome wasn't built in a day, but little things mean alot in marriage.